Future Faking: A Manipulative and Narcissistic Trait that You Need To Be Aware Of
Narcissists have several ways to lure, attract and keep a partner, one of the ways being future faking. Future faking is the decorative way a narcissist will spin elaborate visions of a romantic future together. They will make promises and build dreams about this future with you that they have no intention of making it a reality.
We know that narcissists are major manipulators who master several ways to control you, especially in a romantic relationship. Narcissists also create and maintain superficial and exploitative relationships. They create these relationships through future faking, where they give you a picture of a future that is highly unlikely to happen.
Some example of future faking include; how you will absolutely love a vacation they will take you to, how they will build or buy you a permanent house, the number of kids you will have and the gender, the things they will buy for you, and all the wonderful details people seek in a healthy and loving relationship.
Despite their sincere and enthusiastic believes, they have no intention of doing these things and are not working even a single step to achieve their promises. Sometimes narcissists are not aware they are future faking as it is their habit to promise heaven so as to keep you in an unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship.
Narcissists may also not be aware they are future faking because this is normal tactic they use to win you over with high speed and intensity. They are not committed to their promises, are not committed to you but they use future faking to have you fully committed before they know what they really want.
This tactic is cruel, manipulative, and narcissistic. The problem with future faking, is it brings you hopes very high only for it to create a string of disappointments that end up being traumatic. Any time you want to leave, they will come up with new promises about the future to convince you stay just a little longer for the two of you to realize your dreams.
Future faking is common among narcissists and is a factor people should be on the look out for. If a partner with narcissist traits keeps promising a future that they aren’t working towards and have a string of unfulfilled future promises, then you may be dealing with future faking.
For instance, a partner who promised to rent a house for the two of you then failed to but is now promising a new house and car and babies and a job is probably future faking you to keep you in a relationship. Narcissists who future fake will go back on every promise they make but keep making new ones that when scrutinized are definitely unachievable.
Narcissists have their reasons for engaging in future faking and sometimes they aren’t even aware of their habit. Thus, it is up to you to recognize the signs and literally run for your life because future faking never comes true and will leave you traumatized while feeling sad.
